How do you view yourself?

A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with — a man is what he makes of himself. Alexander Graham Bell 1847 – 1922 When you look in the mirror, how do you perceive yourself? Do you see a person possessing limited resources and abilities? Or do you see someone capable of learning and growing, and therefore able to get what they want from life? No one knows your reaction but you. But if we answered honestly, I suspect a high number of us would confess to believing their resources and abilities are limited. …
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What’s more important, the right answer or the right question?

Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers. Tony Robbins 1960 – In school, we were taught that we needed to know the right answer. (Thankfully, it was usually in the back of the book.) As we grew up and embarked on our careers, we were again told to know the right answer. When we’re asked a question, it’s important that we know the correct response. Lately, I’ve come to understand the value of asking the right question. The right answer to the wrong question isn’t worth much. But too often, we’re so focused on …
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Do you want to be heard?

Tone is often the most important part of a conversation — and listening is so much more important than what you say. Hoda Kotb 1964 – Do you want to be heard? That question may sound silly; most people would say the whole reason for speaking is to be heard. But often, the way we say things works against that goal. To demonstrate, let me tell you about an incident I saw a while back. I was in a restaurant. Seated about two tables away was a man, probably in his fifties, and his father. The father looked to be …
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