Sorry, not sorry

Saying, ‘I’m sorry’ is the same as saying, ‘I apologize.’ Except at a funeral. Demetri Martin 1973 – A few months ago, the shampoo Pantene did a commercial in which women apologized for a variety of common actions: for speaking up in a meeting, for asking a co-worker for an opinion, even for using a shared armrest. The ad highlighted a growing problem, particularly among women: apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong. It’s understandable to apologize if you’ve acted inappropriately or offended someone. It can even be advisable to apologize as a preventative measure; for instance, when dealing with a tricky …
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Two words to change your life

Life is the sum of all your choices. Albert Camus 1913 – 1960 When I was young, I was fascinated by the magic words that storybook heroes could use to change things. All they had to do was say the magic words and their world would immediately change. Now that I’m older, I realize that those tales were simply fantasies. But there are a couple of words that really can change your life: they have near-magical power if you use them correctly. The words themselves are quite simple: “I choose.” The magic is in how you use them. I suggest …
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Pseudo-productive procrastination

I think of myself as something of a connoisseur of procrastination, creative and dogged in my approach to not getting things done. Susan Orlean 1955 – Many people today engage in what I call “pseudo-productive procrastination” — usually without even realizing it. While this behavior might convey some short-term benefits, it can ultimately damage productivity and severely hinder you from reaching your long-term goals. What is pseudo-productive procrastination? Quite simply, it’s performing low-value or unnecessary tasks in order to delay working on a more valuable project. It manifests in many ways: checking email every few minutes; doing more research than necessary; over-organizing electronic files …
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