The when, then trap: Part two

It’s the easiest thing in the world for a man to deceive himself. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 Last week, I introduced the idea of the when, then trap. I wanted to revisit it this week because it’s such an important concept — and it’s easy to convince ourselves that it only applies to other people. But I believe we all fall into the when, then trap a lot more often than we realize. At one point, I was working with a client who was in a dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. He was complaining quite a bit about his partner, so …
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The when, then trap

I will act now. Success will not wait. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person. Og Mandino 1923 – 1996 Have you ever been caught in the “when, then” trap? In case you’re not sure what I mean, let me give you an example from my experience coaching other professionals. I was working with a small business owner who was struggling to get things done. He was working way too many hours and generating mediocre results. I suggested that he might not be spending his time wisely. I went on to tell him how Sir Richard Branson, …
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Wants and needs

When a thing is funny, search it for a hidden truth. George Bernard Shaw 1856 – 1950 I generally enjoy reading the daily comics in the newspaper. I usually find some humor, and occasionally I find a profound lesson. I’d like to share a story from The Family Circus that provided a great lesson we can all use. If you’re not familiar with The Family Circus, it’s a comic strip about a typical family: a couple with four young children, two dogs and a cat. In this particular strip, the first section showed the young boy standing next to the towel …
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