When you must succeed

They can conquer who believe they can. Virgil It’s rather unfortunate, but as humans, we must be hardwired to seek the easy way out. We always seem to be looking for the path of least resistance. This behavior, while designed to conserve our resources, often keeps us from achieving our true potential. We have a bad habit of giving up on tasks when the going gets tough. But there are countless stories of humans who perform superhuman tasks when there’s no other choice. Our greatest achievements seem to come from situations where “failure is not an option” — an expression …
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Jumping to conclusions

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions. Stephen R. Covey 1932 – 2012 We all encounter problems in life. Most of us have developed the habit of trying to find a solution to the problem as quickly as we can. However, this approach often leads to solving the wrong problem: we jump to conclusions and leave the real problem untouched. Let me give you an example. Recently, I was working with a young woman who was …
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Sorry, not sorry

Saying, ‘I’m sorry’ is the same as saying, ‘I apologize.’ Except at a funeral. Demetri Martin 1973 – A few years ago, the shampoo Pantene did a commercial in which women apologized forĀ a variety of common actions: for speaking up in a meeting, for asking a co-worker for an opinion, even for using a shared armrest. The ad highlighted a growing problem, particularly among women: apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong. It’s understandable to apologize if you’ve acted inappropriately or offended someone. You can even make an argument for apologizing strategically; when dealing with a tricky client, for instance, it …
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