Are you too attached to your ideas?

We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are. Anais Nin 1903 – 1977 Do you get too attached to your ideas? Are you too invested in the way you think things should work? Do you believe you can be objective about your own plans? Before we get too deep in a discussion of these questions, let me share a famous experiment that researchers conducted using a unique lottery. Half of the study’s participants were assigned ticket numbers, while the other half were allowed to select their own numbers. Just before the drawing, the researchers offered …
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Is your optimism hindering your success?

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true. Napoleon Hill 1883 – 1970 You don’t need to do much research to find that optimistic people live longer, enjoy a healthier life and generally fare much better than their pessimistic counterparts. But consider this question: is it possible to be too optimistic? Can your optimism actually hinder your success? Psychologist Gabriele Oettingen has done extensive research on how optimism influences your ability to achieve your goals. In one study involving women enrolled in weight loss programs, the …
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The road to Hana

It’s not the destination that brings happiness, but the journey. Socrates 469 BC – 399 BC If you ever get a chance to visit the Hawaiian island of Maui, you’ll almost certainly hear about one of their most famous tourist attractions: the Road to Hana. But if you make the trip and walk around Hana, you’ll probably hear a few people making comments like, “What’s the big deal?” or “The view from my hotel is better than here.” Those people arrive at Hana expecting their destination to be the main attraction. But the real reward is the journey there. The …
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