What’s the cost of being right?

This is the grave of Mike O’Day, He died defending his right of way, His right was clear, his will was strong But he is just as dead as if he’d been wrong. Anonymous How much are you willing to pay to be right? We often pay far too much to defend our right to be right. I don’t mean upholding the non-negotiable items that make up our core values; I’m referring to the everyday moments when we defend our right to be right without considering the cost. This issue can probably be illustrated best with an example. Some time …
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Are you building walls or bridges?

You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late, Before you are six or seven or eight, To hate all the people your relatives hate, You’ve got to be carefully taught! “You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught” From the 1949 musical South Pacific Rogers and Hammerstein I’d like you to take a minute or two to think about this question: in your everyday life, do you build more walls or bridges? If you’ve never thought in these terms, you might not understand exactly what I mean, so let me explain. At times, we build walls that separate us from others. …
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What pole are you: positive or negative?

Your mind is a magnet. You don’t attract what you need or what you want; you attract who you are. Carlos Santana 1947 – When I was a child, I remember learning about magnets in school. I was fascinated by the way they worked — positive and negative poles attracting each other while like poles repelled with surprising force. I can even recall trying to push two like poles together; no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t do it. But what about people? Are there rules of attraction for humans? Clearly, there are competing opinions on the subject; just consider …
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