Keeping things in perspective

There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so. William Shakespeare 1564 – 1616 In his book, Influence: Science and Practice, Robert Cialdini tells a story about a young girl away at college. She writes a letter to her parents, first apologizing for not having written sooner. She then goes on to say that the skull fracture and concussion she got when she jumped from her dorm window to escape the fire is healing nicely. Fortunately, a service station attendant witnessed her jump, rescued her and took her to the hospital. Since she had no place to stay, …
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Four questions to reclaim your time

A ‘no’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. Mahatma Gandhi 1869 – 1948 On some level, we each realize that we can’t do it all; we have a limited number of hours per day and a limited amount of energy. But we still try to do as much as possible, and we tend to feel guilty or beat ourselves up when we miss an opportunity or fail to complete an impossible to-do list. This issue seems to be particularly troublesome during the holidays; we have so many additional tasks and opportunities …
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When will you be happy?

Men of ill judgment oft ignore the good that lies within their hands, till they have lost it. Sophocles c. 495 -429 B.C. Over the years, I’ve been an adviser to a wide range of people from countries throughout the world. When I start working with someone, one of the first questions I ask is, “When will you be happy?” or “When will you consider yourself successful?” Here’s a sampling of the answers I’ve gotten: When I complete my MBA, PhD, or some other academic accomplishment; When I’m promoted to manager, director, CEO or some other position; When I get …
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