How big is your circus?

Engineers like to solve problems. If there are no problems handily available, they will create their own problems. Scott Adams 1957 – Recently, my daughter introduced me to a wonderful Polish saying that many of us should take to heart. The phrase captures a wealth of wisdom in its few words: “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” The essence of the phrase is simple: the situation at hand isn’t yours to manage; it’s someone else’s problem. But the truth is, a lot of us go out of our way to take on other people’s problems. So why do we get involved with …
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Why do you get up in the morning?

Either you run the day or the day runs you. Jim Rohn 1930 – 2009 When I’m working with someone, I often ask them this question: why do you get up in the morning? Take a moment to think about your answer before you continue reading. When I ask this question, the overwhelming majority of the answers fall into one of these categories: I have to go to work; I have to take care of the kids; I have to go to school. But I never rest with this first answer; I always dig deeper. So my next question might …
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The six step pause

In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility. Eleanor Roosevelt 1884 – 1962 Most of our days — and therefore most of our lives — are filled with routine, mundane events. But many days we encounter pivotal moments, also known as key moments, as well. These are moments fraught with emotional stress: disagreements with a co-worker or a loved one; being criticized by your boss, spouse or close friend; discovering your work or home routine will be significantly changed. …
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