Making choices

If you don’t like what’s happening, you have to consciously make new choices about how to think, feel and act. Roger Allen A few years ago, a young lady and I were talking about some issues in her life. She was having trouble accepting responsibility for her part in these difficulties, so I asked her a question: how good are you at making choices? She was quick to reply that she always made good choices. She went on to say that she thought things through, weighed all the possibilities and felt like she made good decisions. I then asked her …
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I’ll do it myself

Anybody, anywhere in the world, all they want is to be free, to choose what they want to do without having someone tell them how to do it. Freida Pinto 1984 – Have you ever tried to feed a two year old (hoping to get the food in their mouth and not on the floor), only to be rebuffed? Around that age, children start exhibiting a desire to be in control of their lives; they want to do things for themselves. At the other end of the spectrum is elder care. If you’ve ever been a caregiver, you know that …
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Two words to change your life

Life is the sum of all your choices. Albert Camus 1913 – 1960 When I was young, I was fascinated by the magic words that storybook heroes could use to change things. All they had to do was say the magic words and their world would immediately change. Now that I’m older, I realize that those tales were simply fantasies. But there are a couple of words that really can change your life: they have near-magical power if you use them correctly. The words themselves are quite simple: “I choose.” The magic is in how you use them. I suggest …
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