How comfortable are you?

I don’t like to be out of my comfort zone, which is about a half an inch wide. Larry David 1947 – Most people live their lives inside fairly well-defined boundaries. They determine the scope of their comfort zone and rarely choose to stray beyond those borders. And as people age, their comfort zone tends to shrink: they stop trying new things and spend more and more time on those activities that are the most familiar and comfortable. Unfortunately, you can’t grow as a person when you’re maintaining the status quo. Growth only comes through challenges and change – conditions …
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The Pillow Test

You become what you give your attention to. Epictetus 55 – 135 A.D. I’m always looking for little things people can do to improve their quality of life. I recently heard of a good exercise from an associate in Dallas; he calls it the pillow test. It’s simple, but it can be very effective over time. As you lay your head down on your pillow each night, ask yourself the following two questions. What am I glad I did today? What do I wish I had done today? These are powerful and thought provoking questions. Think about the things you …
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The when, then trap: Part two

It’s the easiest thing in the world for a man to deceive himself. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 Last week, I introduced the idea of the when, then trap. I wanted to revisit it this week because it’s such an important concept — and it’s easy to convince ourselves that it only applies to other people. But I believe we all fall into the when, then trap a lot more often than we realize. At one point, I was working with a client who was in a dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. He was complaining quite a bit about his partner, so …
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