The Pillow Test

You become what you give your attention to. Epictetus 55 – 135 A.D. I’m always looking for little things people can do to improve their quality of life. I recently heard of a good exercise from an associate in Dallas; he calls it the pillow test. It’s simple, but it can be very effective over time. As you lay your head down on your pillow each night, ask yourself the following two questions. What am I glad I did today? What do I wish I had done today? These are powerful and thought provoking questions. Think about the things you …
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The when, then trap: Part two

It’s the easiest thing in the world for a man to deceive himself. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 Last week, I introduced the idea of the when, then trap. I wanted to revisit it this week because it’s such an important concept — and it’s easy to convince ourselves that it only applies to other people. But I believe we all fall into the when, then trap a lot more often than we realize. At one point, I was working with a client who was in a dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. He was complaining quite a bit about his partner, so …
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The when, then trap

I will act now. Success will not wait. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person. Og Mandino 1923 – 1996 Have you ever been caught in the “when, then” trap? In case you’re not sure what I mean, let me give you an example from my¬†experience coaching other professionals. I was working with a small business owner who was struggling to get things done. He was working way too many hours and generating mediocre results. I suggested that he might not be¬†spending his time wisely. I went on to tell him how Sir Richard Branson, …
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