Stop asking how

The fourth commitment is the hardest for most people. It’s to persist and have the patience to hang in there long enough to make steady progress. Change doesn’t happen overnight. Roger K. Allen I’m continually asked questions along these lines: How can I find my ideal mate? How can I achieve my financial goals? How can I lose twenty pounds? How can I get my mate to be more loving, agreeable, helpful? The common thread among these questions is that most people believe there’s an easy answer to their problems and once they learn it, everything will fall into place. …
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Make New Year’s resolutions you can keep (Part 2)

How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 In my last lesscon, I outlined the five elements necessary to achieve real, sustainable change with your New Year’s resolutions. The resolutions must be your own — what you truly desire to change The benefits of change must outweigh the cost You must believe you’re capable of change You need to optimize your environment for change The change needs to become a ritual or habit I also elaborated on the first two items, which are key in …
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New Year’s resolutions you can keep

New Year’s Day: Now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving Hell with them as usual. Mark Twain 1835 – 1910 It’s that time of year again: most of us will look back on the past twelve months with a bit of dismay over the things we didn’t do. We’ll brood over the goals we didn’t accomplish and we’ll promise ourselves that next year will be different: next year we’ll make major improvements to our lives. Unfortunately, most resolutions aren’t kept. It may be a new year, but it’s the …
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