The when, then trap: Part two

It’s the easiest thing in the world for a man to deceive himself. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 Last week, I introduced the idea of the when, then trap. I wanted to revisit it this week because it’s such an important concept — and it’s easy to convince ourselves that it only applies to other people. But I believe we all fall into the when, then trap a lot more often than we realize. At one point, I was working with a client who was in a dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. He was complaining quite a bit about his partner, so …
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The when, then trap

I will act now. Success will not wait. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person. Og Mandino 1923 – 1996 Have you ever been caught in the “when, then” trap? In case you’re not sure what I mean, let me give you an example from my experience coaching other professionals. I was working with a small business owner who was struggling to get things done. He was working way too many hours and generating mediocre results. I suggested that he might not be spending his time wisely. I went on to tell him how Sir Richard Branson, …
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Looking for solutions

Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got. Jim Rohn 1930 – 2009 Recently, I was working with a businessman who was concerned about the decline in his business. My first step was to get him to list all the reasons which, in his opinion, were responsible for the downturn. He mentioned the general economy and the local economy, a new competitor nearby, his “behind the times” supplier, and the list went on and on. When he’d finished noting all the reasons he could think of to account for the decline in business, I asked him …
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