Praise or criticism

Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee. Proverbs 9:8 At a networking function a few years ago, the developer of a product related an incident where he was offered feedback. The person giving the feedback asked the developer if he wanted praise or the truth. The implication was both daunting and clear: do you want me to tell you how great the product is, or do you want me to be honest? The developer of the product responded that he wanted the truth. Then, he said, he braced himself for the …
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This year, I will

There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. W. Clement Stone 1902 – 2002 As the old year winds down, people seem naturally drawn to two activities. The first is looking back on the old year with a bit of remorse for all the things they’d planned (and failed) to do. The second is looking forward to the fresh New Year and promising, “This year, I’ll ___________.” My guess is you’re probably doing these things already. Given your commitment to dramatically change your life, you’ve probably made a …
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Stop asking how

The fourth commitment is the hardest for most people. It’s to persist and have the patience to hang in there long enough to make steady progress. Change doesn’t happen overnight. Roger K. Allen I’m continually asked questions along these lines: How can I find my ideal mate? How can I achieve my financial goals? How can I lose 30 pounds? How can I get my mate to be more loving, agreeable, helpful? The common thread among these questions is that most people believe there’s an easy answer to their problems and once they learn it, everything will fall into place. …
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