Make New Year’s resolutions you can keep (Part 2)

How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 In my last lesson, I outlined the five elements necessary to achieve real, sustainable change with your New Year’s resolutions. The resolutions must be your own — what you truly desire to change The benefits of change must outweigh the cost You must believe you’re capable of change You need to optimize your environment for change The change needs to become a ritual or habit I also elaborated on the first two items, which are key in choosing resolutions you …
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New Year’s resolutions you can keep

New Year’s Day: Now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual. Mark Twain 1835 – 1910 It’s that time of year again: most of us will look back on the past twelve months with a bit of dismay over the things we didn’t do. We’ll brood over the goals we didn’t accomplish and we’ll promise ourselves that next year will be different: next year we’ll make major improvements to our lives. Unfortunately, most resolutions aren’t kept. It may be a new year, but it’s the same …
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How big is your circus?

Engineers like to solve problems. If there are no problems handily available, they will create their own problems. Scott Adams 1957 – Recently, my daughter introduced me to a wonderful Polish saying that many of us should take to heart. The phrase captures a wealth of wisdom in its few words: “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” The essence of the phrase is simple: the situation being considered isn’t yours to manage; it’s someone else’s problem. But the truth is, a lot of us go out of our way to take on other people’s problems. Why do we get involved with another person’s …
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