Direction, or directions?

The best executive is the one who has the sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it. Theodore Roosevelt 1858 – 1919 Do you want to be a better manager, parent or relationship partner? If your relationships with your employees, co-workers, friends or relatives aren’t what you’d like, here’s a good way to improve: ask yourself this question: “Do I give direction, or directions?” That question may sound too simple or too subtle, but the answer could lead to a huge change in the way …
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Don’t panic and drown

Open your eyes: see things for what they really are, thereby sparing yourself the pain of false attachments and avoidable devastation. Epictetus 55 – 135 AD I grew up in a small town in east central Mississippi. In my high school years, I hung out with a group of friends that enjoyed fishing, hunting and camping. One of the more affluent members of our group had access to a flat-bottomed boat with an outboard motor, and we got to use it occasionally. One of our favorite spots was a small river a few miles outside of town. The river was thirty or forty feet …
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Make plans, not schedules

Without a purpose, nothing should be done. Marcus Aurelius 121 – 180 My work involves helping people achieve their goals. I want to share an exercise I sometimes use with the people I coach: I simply ask them what they have planned the next day. Most of the time, this question catches them off balance. But some quickly recover and start outlining the tasks they’ll be engaged in the following day. Some time back, I presented this question to a young man I was helping. He was quiet a few minutes, then he outlined a fairly full schedule: arrive at …
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