You win, I lose

But I like not these great success of yours; for I know how jealous are the gods. Herodotus 484 BC – 409 BC I’ve noticed a worrying trend lately among different people and groups: the habit of viewing another person’s victory as a personal defeat. Don’t get me wrong; it’s perfectly understandable to be disappointed if you and another person are directly competing for an award, promotion, or other accolade and you don’t win. In that case, the natural reaction when learning the news is to consider how the outcome affects you. The problem arises when someone’s victory has no direct bearing on you, …
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Do you want to be heard?

Tone is often the most important part of a conversation — and listening is so much more important than what you say. Hoda Kotb 1964 – Do you want to be heard? That question may sound silly; most people would say the whole reason for speaking is to be heard. But often, the way we say things works against that goal. To demonstrate, let me tell you about an incident I saw a while back. I was in a restaurant. Seated about two tables away was a man, probably in his fifties, and his father. The father looked to be …
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Coping with disaster

There is a tomorrow after a disaster, and it’s sometimes hard to remember that in the midst of it. Sheri Fink It’s difficult to watch news footage of the current conditions in Puerto Rico without experiencing some emotion. I feel great empathy for the residents there and wonder how some are able to cope. Before Hurricane Maria, everything was routine and people were going about their lives as usual. Then their world was turned upside down, with widespread damage, no power, and limited supplies — and no idea when to expect repairs or aid. Some lost their lives. Many more …
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