Stop asking how

The fourth commitment is the hardest for most people. It’s to persist and have the patience to hang in there long enough to make steady progress. Change doesn’t happen overnight. Roger K. Allen I’m continually asked questions along these lines: How can I find my ideal mate? How can I achieve my financial goals? How can I lose twenty pounds? How can I get my mate to be more loving, agreeable, helpful? The common thread among these questions is that most people believe there’s an easy answer to their problems and once they learn it, everything will fall into place. …
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Making choices

If you don’t like what’s happening, you have to consciously make new choices about how to think, feel and act. Roger Allen A few years ago, a young lady and I were talking about some issues in her life. She was having trouble accepting responsibility for her part in these difficulties, so I asked her a question: how good are you at making choices? She was quick to reply that she always made good choices. She went on to say that she thought things through, weighed all the possibilities and felt like she made good decisions. I then asked her …
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Who defines your life?

The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves that we are underlings. William Shakespeare 1564 – 1616 Who defines your life? Before you answer that question, take a minute to consider that whoever decides on the rules, the playing field and the equipment generally wins the game. And though we’re talking about life, not a game, the same holds true. If you’re trying to live your life by someone else’s rules, who do you think has the better chance of winning? Now, you may be thinking that you set the rules for your life. Maybe so. …
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