Making choices

If you don’t like what’s happening, you have to consciously make new choices about how to think, feel and act. Roger Allen A few years ago, a young lady and I were talking about some issues in her life. She was having trouble accepting responsibility for her part in these difficulties, so I asked her a question: how good are you at making choices? She was quick to reply that she always made good choices. She went on to say that she thought things through, weighed all the possibilities and felt like she made good decisions. I then asked her …
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Snakes, wasps and mosquitoes

A man cannot be too careful in the choice of his enemies. Oscar Wilde 1854 – 1900 If I asked you whether you’d prefer to be in a room with a snake, a wasp or a mosquito, which would you choose? If you’re like most people, you don’t want to be anywhere near a snake, and wasps would likely come in second. You’d probably say, “Bring on the mosquito; it’s easy to swat.” We know snakes can be deadly. Wasps can be deadly too, if you’re allergic to them — and even if you aren’t, their bites can be pretty …
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What’s the cost of being right?

This is the grave of Mike O’Day, He died defending his right of way, His right was clear, his will was strong But he is just as dead as if he’d been wrong. Anonymous How much are you willing to pay to be right? We often pay far too much to defend our right to be right. I don’t mean upholding the non-negotiable items that make up our core values; I’m referring to the everyday moments when we defend our right to be right without considering the cost. This issue can probably be illustrated best with an example. Some time …
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