Getting or giving

Real life is being things on the inside, not getting things on the outside. Ralph Parlette 1870 – 1930 This little incident took place a few years back, at a gathering for some of our extended family. We’d finished lunch and the children had settled into play mode. The weather was nice, so most of the children were playing outside, but there was one toddler sitting in the middle of a pile of toys. He had picked out one toy and was deeply engaged in it. Then another child about the same age wandered into the room. The newcomer fixed …
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Giving and getting

For it is in giving that we receive. St. Francis of Assisi c. 1181 -1226 When I was a young child, I wasn’t particularly fond of returning to school after the holidays — though not for the reason you might think. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t like school as the fact that all my friends asked the same question: “What did you get for Christmas?” I’d have to recite the items I got and then ask them what they’d received. And naturally, each of us made a mental note of who got more. We judged ourselves on how …
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How do you measure success?

For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment. Viktor Frankl 1905 – 1997 How do you measure success? Before I answer that question, I’d like you to spend a minute or so thinking about it. What’s your definition of success? For a lot of people, there’s only one measure: money. And in some cases, money is a perfectly adequate measure of success. But in my …
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