So what?

There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so. William Shakespeare 1564 – 1616 When I was a child, there was one expression I remember hearing quite often. I really didn’t like to hear it, which may be why it stands out for me. The expression was “So what?” When I’d done something I thought was important, my playmates would use it to bring me down a notch. Conversely, my mother would use it to try to cheer me up when I came home feeling low. It was much more effective as a mood killer than a mood …
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Setting expectations

Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectation. Leo Buscaglia 1924 – 1998 Recently, I went to my doctor for a routine physical. Part of the exam involved giving a blood sample for testing. As the nurse prepared to stick me with the needle, she said, “This is going to hurt a bit. Okay?” I wondered to myself if she understood the purpose of her comment. So I asked if she knew why she informed patients what to expect. As it turns out, she’d never given it much thought; it was simply what she was taught to …
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Why we make bad decisions

What’s so curious about human beings is that we can look deeply into the future, foresee disaster, and still do nothing in the present to stop it. The majority of people on this planet, they’re overwhelmed with concerns about their immediate well being. Dan Gilbert 1957 – Most people understand and accept that our circumstances are largely the result of decisions we’ve made. If we’re dissatisfied with life, we probably made poor decisions somewhere along the way. But what contributes to poor decision making? Quite simply, when we consider the cost and benefit of an immediate action, we tend to …
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