When will you be happy?

Men of ill judgment oft ignore the good that lies within their hands, till they have lost it. Sophocles c. 495 -429 B.C. Over the years, I’ve been an adviser to a wide range of people from countries throughout the world. When I start working with someone, one of the first questions I ask is, “When will you be happy?” or “When will you consider yourself successful?” Here’s a sampling of the answers I’ve gotten: When I complete my MBA, PhD, or some other academic accomplishment; When I’m promoted to manager, director, CEO or some other position; When I get …
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How do you define a win?

For me, being memorable is more important than winning. Ricki Lake 1968 – Recently, writer Minerva Zimmerman shared a great story on Twitter about a chess game she’d agreed to play. Her opponent was a nationally ranked player; most would consider him an expert on the game. So she knew her odds of winning were slim to none. But she chose to take a different approach: rather than defining a win as beating her opponent, she decided that simply having fun with the game would be a win for her. To that end, Zimmerman adopted an unconventional strategy: to protect her pawns. …
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Are you fooling yourself?

It’s the easiest thing in the world for a man to deceive himself. Benjamin Franklin 1706 – 1790 Most people profess to want to learn more, do more and achieve more. Some even have plans and goals for what they’ll do and achieve. Yet often, we do more in our minds than we do in reality: we believe we do more than we’re actually doing. If I asked you how much time you devoted to self-improvement or self-development, would you know? If I asked how much time you spent working on the most difficult challenges to your success, would you …
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