Getting or giving

Real life is being things on the inside, not getting things on the outside. Ralph Parlette 1870 – 1930 This little incident took place a few years back, at a gathering for some of our extended family. We’d finished lunch and the children had settled into play mode. The weather was nice, so most of the children were playing outside, but there was one toddler sitting in the middle of a pile of toys. He had picked out one toy and was deeply engaged in it. Then another child about the same age wandered into the room. The newcomer fixed …
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A new Mercedes

Most people don’t realize that both help and harm come from within ourselves. Instead they look to externals, mesmerized by appearances. Epictetus 55 – 135 A.D. I was recently working with a client, and one of her stated goals was to acquire a new Mercedes. So I asked the question, “How will having a new Mercedes change you?” She replied that if she had a new Mercedes, people would know she was successful. People would respect her and her accomplishments. I again asked the question, “If you have a new Mercedes, how will that change you?” Her reply was along …
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Honky-tonk beauty

Open your eyes: see things for what they really are, thereby sparing yourself the pain of false attachments and avoidable devastation. Epictetus 55 – 135 A.D. I’m not a big fan of country and western music, particularly the hard core country. Even though I find it painful to listen to, I do find some real lessons in some of the lyrics. There’s one song where the story goes something like this: the wife suspects her husband isn’t totally faithful and goes into a dimly lit honky-tonk to find him sitting at the bar with a real winner. In order to …
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