Merry Christmas… or Happy Holidays?

He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree. Roy L. Smith 1887–1963 Last week, one of my neighbors put up a yard sign saying “Christmas is all about JESUS.” I couldn’t help but think that their message presented a very narrow interpretation of the Christmas season, and one that largely misses the point. I agree that Christmas shouldn’t be a consumer-driven, consumption-focused holiday. But if we go too far in the other direction — defining the holiday with a Christian perspective that excludes other beliefs — then we’re still forgetting the spirit of the season. Jesus …
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Getting or giving

Real life is being things on the inside, not getting things on the outside. Ralph Parlette 1870 – 1930 This little incident took place a few years back, at a gathering for some of our extended family. We’d finished lunch and the children had settled into play mode. The weather was nice, so most of the children were playing outside, but there was one toddler sitting in the middle of a pile of toys. He had picked out one toy and was deeply engaged in it. Then another child about the same age wandered into the room. The newcomer fixed …
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A new Mercedes

Most people don’t realize that both help and harm come from within ourselves. Instead they look to externals, mesmerized by appearances. Epictetus 55 – 135 A.D. I was recently working with a client, and one of her stated goals was to acquire a new Mercedes. So I asked the question, “How will having a new Mercedes change you?” She replied that if she had a new Mercedes, people would know she was successful. People would respect her and her accomplishments. I again asked the question, “If you have a new Mercedes, how will that change you?” Her reply was along …
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