Jumping to conclusions

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions. Stephen R. Covey 1932 – 2012 We all encounter problems in life. Most of us have developed the habit of trying to find a solution to the problem as quickly as we can. However, this approach often leads to solving the wrong problem: we jump to conclusions and leave the real problem untouched. Let me give you an example. Recently, I was working with a young woman who was …
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Fighting moles

There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all. Peter Drucker 1909 – 2005 In the excellent book Fierce Conversations, Susan Scott tells a story about her brother Sam. When he was a teen, Sam had a permanent chore: taking care of their lawn’s mole problem. So Sam would spend his Saturday mornings using a variety of methods to rid the lawn of moles. He tried smoke bombs and traps, and on occasion he even tried to drown them by sticking a garden hose into their underground tunnels. None of his attempts really …
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Asking for help

And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. Matthew 15:14 By the time my father-in-law reached his late 80s, he was in very poor health. Against the advice of his children and other caregivers, he insisted on continuing to live in his own house with his wife, who was also in poor health; he repeatedly dismissed everyone’s concerns that an emergency might arise when none of the family were nearby to help him. One morning, he was feeling very weak and wanted to go to the emergency room. But as he began to call around, he couldn’t find …
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